It’s one of life’s most confounding questions: why did this happen to me? Counselors hear it all the time. Abuse, adultery, addiction … no matter the issue, people want to know why it happened. They’ve done their best to be a good person, living a good life, so why did they have to suffer from this?
We never give trite answers to that question because quite frankly, we don’t have the answer. What we can tell people is that the rest of their lives is ahead of them, and that faith, community, and sound counsel will make a real difference as they go through the process of experiencing and recovering from the situation. We may not be able to undo the hurt, the anger, the confusion, and the regret, but we can help them find a path forward.
When we started Care to Change, that’s exactly what we had in mind. We’re professionals who provide care, and we do care. We demonstrate that care by listening and comforting, and we also demonstrate it by questioning and challenging. And the goal of what we do is helping people accomplish real change. That change differs from person to person. For some, it may be a better understanding of how they can shape their relationships with those around them. For some, it may be the courage to make an important decision. For others, it may mean helping them move past a loss, a trauma, or some other sticking point that has been interfering with their ability to experience joy and recognize purpose in their lives.
Maybe someday we’ll all understand the why. In the meantime, we’ll be here helping people find the “what’s next?” If you need help finding it, please contact us today to set a time to meet with one of our professional counselors.
April Bordeau is the Director of Care to Change. A licensed clinical social worker, she has focused on helping children and families overcome challenges in their lives for the past two decades.
